How Big Is Your Patience?

 　　人在职场，有着太多的身不由己，也许你无意间冲撞到了禁区，变成了被挑刺找茬的出气目标。面对向你撒气的上司、同事……你的忍耐性有多大？如果他们语言过激、行为过分，达到你不能承受之痛时，你必须翻身反击。

　　第一痛：饱受坏上司糊涂气

But you can't bear it: criticize your performance better than other colleagues, deducting part of the bonus.

Can not bear: take performance as a handle to make you a "punching bag", and scold you for some trivial matters for no reason.

Scene magnifier: the boss of my foreign company is short tempered.

Some time ago, the performance of our Department declined. He did not consider the manager's explanation and solution at all. He definitely decided the guilt of all his colleagues and deducted 30% of the employees' bonus.

And I was even worse, because he was the least satisfied with the new business, and he reprimanded me.

Later, he often referred to me as a "dustman".

When I was close to work again, I packed up my papers and prepared to go home.

The boss recruited me into the office. He asked, "is the phone call from a Korean customer over there?"

"Yes."

"Did you give it to Xiao Zhang?"

The boss asked again.

"Yes."

I answered truthfully.

"Didn't you just emphasize that you should not just turn around the phone, or are you responsible for the customer?"

He suddenly raised his voice to 180 degrees, and the fire was very frightening.

I stood there with my head bowed, and I did not say a word, but there was a voice in my heart ten thousand times: did it not say yesterday that the telephone for equipment consultation was pferred to Xiao Zhang?

The boss even changes his words so that he can't stand his confusion.

Besides, Korean customers have been contacted by Xiao Zhang, and I haven't done anything wrong.

If I didn't force my grievances in my heart, I really wanted to quarrel with him, though I still chose to endure patiently, but I didn't want to be his "punching bag" all the time. What should I do?

Counterattack strategy: if your boss loses your performance due to your low performance, you should communicate with your boss as soon as possible to eliminate the estrangement between you and your boss.

It's best to talk about the relationship between boss and employee efficiency.

You can gently tell your boss that his relationship with employees is crucial to the efficiency of their employees.

A boss with a little IQ can understand what you mean.

In addition, you have to be clear about what the boss said about the accident, and indirectly suggest that he will not regard you as a "punching bag" later.

Of course, the key is that you have to sort out your responsibilities, then identify the fault, find out the root cause of the accident, and trace the responsibility back to the end. Although this does not seem like a common employee's job, you must do so in order to wash the grievances.

　　第二痛：承担老同事冤枉气

I can't bear it: I blame you for tidying up her desk without her permission.

You can't bear it: you can't find the documents she desperately needs, and blame the crime on you, abuse and humiliate you.

Scene magnifier: I am a new employee who just stepped into the workplace. My colleagues are very caring for me. Every time they meet with problems at work, they always help me solve them.

I feel that gratitude must be rewarded, so every time I get help, I will thank them, but I do not expect that if I work hard, I will be in trouble.

At noon that afternoon, I was preparing to go downstairs to dinner. I saw the desk of my colleague, ah Xin, was rather messy, and I helped her clean up for her kindness.

When I returned from lunch, I saw Ah Xin looking anxiously at his desk.

When I came over, she asked, "did you make my desk?"

"Yes, just now..."

Before I finished, ah Xin's attitude was angry. He shouted loudly: "who let you mess with my desk? Who do you think you are? You are invading my privacy. Where did you put my data sheet?

HMM, you don't have to please me. I hate the apple polisher like you... "

I was speechless, tears of injustice in my eyes.

Counterattack strategy: although your motivation is good, it is very easy for your colleagues to misunderstand your desk by secretly arranging your colleagues' desk.

In fact, thank you for your thanks to your colleagues.

But because of this, you can only swallow your weakness and you bully.

Of course, friends are easy to understand and difficult to knot.

What you have to do is to apologize to your colleagues first, to show that you are actually a good idea, and I didn't think of the trouble. It brought trouble to her and hoped to be forgiven and understood.

Finally, help colleagues to find lost files.

Such a move, colleagues will feel that you are magnanimous, more approachable and skillful in turning disadvantages into profits.

　　第三痛：背负二老板窝囊气

Shang can't bear it: depend on the close relationship with the boss, do not obey the rules and regulations of the company, but you can persuade him instead of cynicism.

Can not bear: when her boss is away, she is the acting boss. Because she has offended her before, she always takes you as a punching bag.

Scene magnifier: I have been a personnel manager for a private enterprise for over a year.

3 months ago, the company adjusted the development strategy. The boss recruited an administrative assistant. She was the cousin of the general manager. She was in charge of the relationship with the boss and did not put the Department's rules and regulations in her eyes.

Once, in order to interview the new employees, we two quarreled. She threatened to "see whose seat was steady" and then slammed the door away.

Some time ago, the boss had to go on a business trip for a month, and arranged his cousin to manage the Department's affairs when he left.

Well, when the boss is away, she simply goes to the office. She has a lot of energy to do the job, and she is always good at giving advice, especially for my job.

If I had a few words, she would tell me loudly and scold me, and I would regard her as a punk.

Counterattack strategy: usually, those in the workplace rely on their special relationship with the boss and take the "two boss" as their own, which makes employees feel very bad.

The best way to deal with them is to fight against wits.

You can clash with her instead of face to face with her.

If she calls you, you can say how much work you have to rush out.

If you have to go in for training, you can make an appointment with your colleagues in advance so that he can call you in a few minutes to pick up the emergency phone and get you out.

　　最坏的打算是，如果这位“二老板”一直做你的顶头上司，而老板又刚好是个只爱小人不识君子的糊涂虫，那还有什么好犹豫的，收拾好包袱，咱们撤！